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35M here, how many holiday photos is too many photos? I am chronically bad at taking photos in general, taking selfies, encouraging other people to take photos of me when I’m out with them, etc. As a consequence, the last time I tried Hinge 3 months ago, I had to very much rush out 6 suitable photos (for some context, prior to taking those photos, the last proper photo of just me I had was from Jan 2023), meaning a couple of selfies and generally nothing that expressed much particular personality. Lesson learned, I consulted friends who all homed in on my photos not presenting the best version of myself, and zero matches and feeling very dejected later, I deleted the app 2 months ago because I didn’t really know how to rectify the photo situation until now. Next week I go on Holiday for 3 weeks to Taiwan and Japan, and it is the first time in a long time I feel I have a good occasion where I can justify/motivate myself to take photographs of myself. But how many is too many? I figure I can get away with disguising some holiday snaps by getting photos taken in restaurants that aren’t overtly “I am on holiday” or inside houses when visiting relatives, but obviously most photos I’ll end up getting of myself are liable to be “I am obviously on holiday”, or maybe worse “I am on the same holiday and all of these pictures are from that.” But what’s the upper limit that’d be allowable really? Is 3 too many?
Obviously once I land I’ll probably try to supplement those photos with some from me in my actual country, but as someone who is not naturally photo inclined, it won’t be the easiest compared to just naturally wanting to document my holiday.
Woman I went on a first date with (the first in years) wants to take things slow and be friends first. I think we might be incompatible when it comes to long-term plans too. I really like her so I feel disappointed. She was the first woman I’ve had any interest in (or vice versa) in a long time.