This article was so eye opening for me. It addresses my exact issue with inorganically forcing yourself to be charismatic and extroverted by copying others. I did that very thing earlier in the year and it was exhausting. I’m somewhere in the middle where I can be naturally more extroverted and talkative if I’m around the right people, right setting then reserved and chill other times, but being 100% on all the time is not who I am authentically.
The article basically talks about assessing your social strengths and building your own style of charisma from there.