As long as I can remember, the term ‘out of sight out of mind’ really resonated with me.
I simply don’t think about people I’m not seeing for a purpose (like at work or something). This includes family and childhood friends- I set an alarm to reach out to people once a month cuz I know it’s appropriate and people hate always being the one to reach out but I just don’t care about anyone I’m not talking to or physically with…. How common is this?
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How old are you, not that it matters but it helps.
I’m in my 40’s, i was always the “one who called” in my group but as my friend group split up due to marriages or moving or just not being friends anymore, I felt so out of place when we were all together that I just stopped being that guy. Same with my family, but this time it was just a giant family full of people and as we all got older, it became exhausting to be around all of them.
I don’t dislike them, I just don’t go out of my way to care unless one of them directly talks to me. There’s definitely some jealousy and just being hurt by how they went off without me, but also, we really just don’t have that much in common anymore. How many times can I talk about things that happened 20 years ago right? How many times can i hear the same family stories? Even people we love get tiring.
Now, isolating myself has pretty much fucked me up lol So I don’t recommend it. But interact on your terms dude, don’t feel like you hafta do anything and it’ll at least take the pressure off because whatever you do will be your choice. And also, don’t feel bad for not giving a shit, you literally are not obligated to. Care about the people who care about you and show it.