How do you draw that line with your partner between them being a selfish lover and never giving you head or enough head to satisfy you vs my partner just doesn’t like giving head and that should be respected?

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  1. In my experience, it’s not really a good thing to “draw lines” demanding something from your partner in bed. And I don’t think that makes them selfish.

    Have you talked to them about why they don’t want to do that with you? Maybe start there

  2. Do they prefer to receive it more than give it? Some ppl are pillow princesses.

  3. Giving head is probably not the only way you get off. Ask them to get you off in other ways or try to discover sex things that make you both get off at the same time.

    Talk about it, but be kind about it. Don’t say “you did this and that wrong and now I didn’t get off” but instead say “I really, really like it when you’re doing this and that, can you do that more often?!” Or if you wanna try something new, just ask for it whole you’re playing.

    Maybe you could 69 and give eachother head at the same time, just stop or slow down when they are close but you aren’t. It ain’t a race you know. Maybe they like giving head in a different way. Maybe you could use toys. Maybe they really don’t like it at all and you need to accept it, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have to satisfy you, there are probably more ways to get you off.

    Be open, try not to be judgemental about your partners preferences, but do be honest about your own needs. Sex should be fun for the both of you!

  4. In a relationship it should be equal treatment of both partners giving and receiving. In casual play I never go down but always receive. Communicate with them.

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