Since January i’ve (F27) been talking to this guy (M29), he was very sweet and flirty from the get-go and we talked everyday for weeks. He asked if I liked him and he said he liked me. Didn’t say in what sense though… The sexual jokes also increased around that time and he started calling our meetups dates. He then started working more and told me he didn’t mind me texting him while he was at work. After a while, it started feeling a bit one-sided, so i stopped initiating conversations. Took him 2 weeks to remember that I excisted and then it was good for a short while.
He got really busy with school and work, so we didn’t talk for 3 weeks. I sent him a message asking if he was still alive and he acted surprised that I contacted him, because he was just about to text me. I feel like he keeps on giving me mixed signals. Not giving me a heads up that he’s gonna be busy and then acting super casually when we start talking again, bragging about his new shoes and asking what I think about them and other things seems a bit strange to me.
He also told me that he’s been giving a coworker (F) a ride to work, since they live close by eachother. Which is fine of course. It was weird though, because there’s this guy at his workplace that’s interested in that girl and he said that it wouldn’t work out because he was prettyyy sure the girl liked someone else. Seemed to me like he was hinting at something. Again, if i bring up stories about guys in my life (friends, classmates etc..) he seems to get jealous, he just answers with emojis if we’re texting.
Is he just using me for ego boosting? Because I see little effort on his part. Never ghosts me though.
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are you banging him?
I see a lot of conflict with him. If someone really likes you, theyll keep in touch. It also depends on person. Not every woman that I’ve dated enjoys texting each other every day. While some really do like hearing from the person they talk to and are thinking of something serious along the line. I dont know if he is trying to play hard to get, or if he just doesnt want to seem desparate. But Im seeing mixed signals all around from him. I’d find a time slot to sit down and talk, or by phone about the issues and what you two want to do about them.
You’re 27. He’s 29.
Yall are both too old for this.
If someone is being unclear, just end it.
Who cares about their motivation.
he doesn’t sound datable honestly, not that there’s any red flags but it sounds low-effort and like an after thought, you your title may have summed it up well