How typical is it for men to be able to entirely control when they cum? I’m able to do this pretty much 100% accurately and thought it was quite a common thing. But after talking with a group of female friends, they told me I had a “gift”.
I’m genuinely curious and this is not intended as any kind of bragging post. To put things into perspective, when I first started having sex I was really struggling to orgasm at all. After quitting porn and reducing the amount I masturbate for a few years, I’ve got to the point where I can decide pretty much exactly when I orgasm during PIV sex assuming all other things are normal (sober, attraction etc.).
While it’s seems to make girls happy to be able to keep going, one downside is I actually find myself getting turned off or bored pretty quick if I have to have sex for a long time. I think this is related to a mental ability to “turn yourself off” in order to extend the time it takes to cum. This is a bit like once you feel you’re close to orgasming, you turn your thoughts into non-sexual stuff and suddenly you’ve added an extra 5 minutes or until you think about stuff that turns you on again. Does anyone else do the same?
After writing down the last paragraph and realizing what my mind is doing, I wonder if this kind of thing is healthy at all from a mental perspective.. Should you just enjoy the moment naturally and let it go instead?
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My boydriend used to be able to do it but suddenly he lost the ability and cums super quick, but yeah, most men can control when they cum, at least to some point.
I have overcontrol So i have difficulty for finishing. (The good point is that i can last 2 hours ) 🙂
its not typical