I really have never enjoyed “fingering” myself. I don’t know if I am doing it wrong or something but I just don’t enjoy it. I can’t get myself to enjoy it. I am slightly attracted to some guys and I guess I’d maybe like to try sex like that one time or another and I am just curious if it actually feels good or anything. I can’t imagine how it could so I am kind of confused. Obviously the best option would be to actually go and have sex, but I am not really in a position to do so. Basically, not happening for a few years, probably. Just curious. Yeah. Basically, does it feel good? Like at all? Thanks!! Also I guess if any pointers on fingering if I am somehow just really out of the loop would be really nice. I would like to experience it properly if I am doing something wrong. Thank you.
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Yes, it feels *extremely good* with the right person under the right circumstances. It’s way more intimate and pleasurable than fingering for me, but I enjoy both. Totally different sensations, angles, positions available with PIV.
In your experiences with fingering, were you with someone you were deeply attracted to who you trusted and felt safe with? Did this person prime your body with lots of foreplay beforehand? Communicate with you to make sure you were comfortable? Was he sensitive to your needs and body’s cues? Did he start super slowly and gently? Was your vagina significantly lubricated prior to him entering you and throughout the entire experience?
Edit: Just realized you were talking about fingering yourself. Yeah, that’s nothing to write home about no matter how well you know your own body. It’s *much* better with a partner. Like, night and day better, potentially. Don’t stress 🙂
I remember girls on a podcast agreeing that they don’t enjoy fingering themselves but for some reason it feels good when someone else does it.
I assume penetration with a penis would definitely feel different due to the size, positions and no finger nails
If it’s with someone you trust and who respects your boundaries and wants to make you feel good, both are as amazing as each other, but everyone’s body is different.
You need foreplay and lube for both to feel amazing, try sensitive touch on sensitive parts of the body to build up, you can’t go straight in V with fingers or P or it won’t live up to expectations.
As long as it’s consensual you are never ‘doing it wrong’, but there’s ways that can help you enjoy it more.
I’ve never known a girl who enjoyed fingering herself — that includes the girls I’ve been with, though all of them liked when I fingered them. And that idea that it works when someone else does it seems pretty common.
The angle is probably a huge part of that, because that’s an awkward reach for a girl to do to herself, but a partner can get into a comfortable position to reach the right spots.
Penetration with a penis is more complicated because a lot of girls don’t get much from penetration on its own, or they only do in certain positions, or when they’re on top (or otherwise in full control). I’ve had a partner who could reach a few really hard orgasms from me being fully inside her and only moving very slightly while she used a vibrator on her clit. She actually found the vibrator alone to be too intense, penetration alone kinda meh, but the two combined in the right way was mind scrambling.
On the other hand I had another partner who could make herself orgasm from just penetration while riding me, and loved being fucked from behind because I could hit her gspot. She couldn’t orgasm just from that but it still felt good, especially since she also liked having her hair pulled in that position.
I think fingering is ”gently rubbing the head of clitoris with wet fingers”, not ”inserting fingers”. Vagina is quite numb on the inside, like your inner cheek. It perceives stretch and pressure a bit, but not much surface touch. There are certain spots that are more sensitive (g/a-spot) but not everyone has them. All the pleasure comes from the clitoris, the whole inner organ and not just the head of. Even the spots are arguably part of the clitoris, where it can be stimulated internally. Most parts however are kind of around the entrances of urethra and vagina. So, inserting fingers might not feel like much of anything. Even a penis might not feel that much. Sometimes I can’t feel if it’s in, if the man stops moving.
However, I do love penetration, if it’s done in a way that stimulates clitoris. Not like porn where there’s room for the camera between pelvises, but close together, unbroken skin contact, pressure to the clitoral area. Coital Alignment Technique, for example, although my version is just close together missionary without much angling.