’m a (26F) he is a (40M) & the situation is outrageous. He’s very controlling . He treats me like I’m his child. I moved out to Chicago with him but it seems like things are worse ie: it’s 11pm at night and he’s trying to put me and my two daughters (6F) (3F) out. 😭 I just gave him 100$ for rent yesterday because I had to sneak out the house at 6am to go DoorDash cause if I would’ve waited til he woke up he would’ve said no or he’s not watching the kids or he has something to do or take the kids with me… the problem is I won’t have sex with him . But I’m just not sexually attracted to physical and mental abuse he calls me fat and Guly remind you I just went and got a tummy tuck and lipo suction in October I’m not fat at all and I know I’m not ugly but he still does it because he wants to break me down and make me feel like that cause he knows I’m out of his league and can do better . The problem tonight is the 100$ wasn’t good enough he expects 300$ monthly plus I use my food stamps to provide food in the house . Keep in mind his rent is only 300$ a month and his light bill is 84$ per month and he wants 300$ a month out of me I feel like that’s over doing it then when I came in from door dash today he’s like where’s my money like wtf you’re not my pimp , then when he wants to have sex and I tell him no he gets mad wants to kick me out tell me sleep in the kids room etc or he’ll just plain out call me hoes say I’m doing it to someone else. I just don’t be interested in having sex. So I guess I made this post to say how does a single mom of two in this situation save up funds or do something to get out of this situation as quickly as possible.
TL;DR: my boyfriend is controlling and abusive how do I get out of it safely ?
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To start, what is your relationship with your parents like, does he know where they live/how to contact them, are your daughters his/did he adopt them, is there anything legally tying the two of you together like joint bank accounts/bills etc.?