I have issues with penetrative sex

I’m 30m. I had sex last night for the first time since COVID started.

It was with a girl i used to hook up with. My issue is that I couldn’t keep hard enough when having sex. When she would give me a blowjob i would get rock hard, then we switch to sex and I would get about 30 seconds of being hard before i am too soft to continue.

I had to apologise profusely and just make her cum using my hands/mouth. But it’s embarrassing. It’s worth noting that i don’t find her attractive. Don’t know if that has a a part to play.

When i think back throughout my life, I’ve always had an issue staying hard during sex. I get more hard during foreplay/giving or receiving oral. But when it comes to sex, i lose sensation is my penis and it just goes soft.

One of my ex’s about 10 years ago, i could always stay hard during sex with her but that’s about it.

Is there something wrong with me?

Sexuality wise, i’m straight. I had a phase when i was 18 when i thought i might have been bi, i gave a guy a blowjob to try it out, but grew out of that phase.

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Thanks for any answers.