Needed :Post-sex activity ideas and bonding!

So, I have a recurrent theme in my sex life that I’ve only been partially able to address. Considering it, my inability to correct stems from a lack of perspective. So, people of r/sex I need some advice and to be exposed to radically different viewpoints!

My problem is as such. Most of my partners seem to end sexual activity abruptly after an orgasm or becoming too fatigued to continue. I tend to be somewhat resentful when this occurs. It’s like a flip switches and boom done over let’s have lunch. I don’t like that. I’ve come to accept people are built like this. Cool, whatever.

So what can I do? My goals are to maintain intimacy, sexual passion, and to bond through it. I know finding partners that don’t have this tendency is the obvious choice, and I do! But there are so many people I really enjoy with this off-putting post nut clarity type stuff.

Ideally I want a way to compromise. I understand at this point they need sexual distance to recovery and get back into a sexual headspace at a later point. My needs post-sex are affirmation, providing acts of service, and physical contact. I really enjoy any acts of grooming as well. So how do I provide someone with the space they desire while fulfilling these needs? Anything cute or colorful is also a plus. I’ve tried cooking and feeding meals post sex in the bedroom, but it was kinda lame, albeit super sweet