What’s something you feel you missed out on because you were shy?
I’ll start;
Today there was this cute guy at this coffee place I am studying at and I had the opportunity to strike up a conversation but in the end I couldn’t get the words out of my mouth, I couldn’t keep eye contact, I instantly started thinking about the things wrong with my face that he might notice should he get too close and then I just told myself thay I wasn’t looking particularly attractive anyway so might as well just let it go. It’s a bullshit excuse for being a coward, particularly since I knew he was interested but I had to convince myself to let it go because I don’t know how to deal with these situations.
What’s worse is that if he’d initiated the conversation I would’ve been able to handle it and I would’ve asked him for his Instagram handle to keep in touch (not as direct as asking someone on a date but at least leaves the door open for something something), but being shy I come off as standoffish and quite honestly unapproachable that even the cockiest men don’t even want to try.
So I guess the impact on my life is: I potentially missed out on a great romance (again) (among other things)
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Don’t worry there is always a next time and other opportunities
All the time. I’m older than you and let me say this, shyness is an absolute curse and one of the biggest blights of my entire life. It’s stopped me making friends, eating out at places I’d love to go, getting jobs, talking to women I was interested in. And I’m not even a bad-looking guy either, I used to model.
I’m living proof that shyness will take all the perks you have in life and nullify them.
So do whatever you can to rid yourself of it, try whatever courses or medicines you can, otherwise you’ll end up like me, jumpy if someone even rings my doorbell.