I (25f ) am really struggling with my relationship with my mum (54f) I have a 4 month old baby and things got quite bad when I was pregnant with her as my mum was super super mad at me for being on medication that I had to take to keep baby alive.
Shes crazy anti anything at all medical and was also telling me she wasnt over my 2 miscarriages enough for me to have gotten pregnant again……. i really struggled with this as it made absolutely no sense at all and I really needed her support. Fast forward to now when have to go back to work and she is super super disapproving of me doing so (I obviously need the money) despite that she had offered to watch the baby for me and had seemed to excited to do it. Now that she’s actually meant to he watching her she’s so hostile about it and it absolutely stresses me out. I only ask her to watch baby approximately 6-8 hours for 1 day a week ( I offered to pay her she said no ) I don’t know what to do because I’m so sick of feeling like everything I do is a problem for her.
I also should add if we go to the shops together or for coffee or something she will act totally fine towards me just to make me even more confused about it all.
TL;DR mum is super unsupportive but she still offers to help then acts horrible to me.
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She wants too feel good about herself by offering to do something nice but she doesn’t really enjoy the action of doing it.
I strongly suggest admitting to yourself that your mom can’t and won’t be supportive in the way you need so you can seek alternatives.