What advice would you give to a guy who’s about to go down on a woman for the first time.

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1. Go slow, see what spots she likes, Enjoy how much pleasure she’s getting.

2. Take it slow and build into it. Start with normal foreplay and when youre ready to start move down to her legs and start kissing her inner thighs first. Everytime you get close to actually begginning move to the other. Then when you do start slow. Incorporate fingers into it sometimes. Make sure you give the clit attention and don’t be afraid to pause for a moment to catch your breath. If your tongue isn’t super long just keep it to the outside and rely on your fingers.

3. Ask her how she likes it, and since you’re new at it, have her tell you when what you’re doing is or isnt working for her.

   And if she is really into it, she might pull your head harder against her pussy…. which surprised me the first time I did it.

4. Ask her what she likes and then have her talk you through it. Pay attention and learn something. I love pussy so much, but if i think back to when i was new with it, i was intimidated. I was fortunate to have great, patient partners early on. It’s good that she’s more experienced…

5. Trim and file your nails, or better yet, get a manicure. Don’t just focus on the clitorus, the outer and inner lips are very sensitive too. And, most importantly, listen to feedback. Encourage her to be vocal. You could even ask her to guide your hand while she masturbates to learn where she likes to be stimulated, and how much pressure to use.

   Good luck, be safe, and don’t worry; enthusiasam counts for a lot.

6. Get her warmed up first. Kiss her.. everywhere! Use your hands and feel and touch her. You can use your finger down there while kissing her neck or anywhere else to get her warmed up. Start slow; be gentle, and as someone else said, clip your nails please :,). If you feel her getting wet then time to go down cause it’s going to be more sensitive then just going straight down there. Get the clit ofc but kiss, lick, and all that to the other areas first. Use your finger and tongue at the same time. One in the hole, one on the clit.

   Other tips: Be patient! It can take some women a while. If she is not “moaning” or seeming like she’s enjoying it right away, she just isn’t warmed up well enough yet or turned on yet. It might take a few minutes. Make sure the atmosphere is comfortable. I have been in situations with some bright ass lights and it is NOT fun for me at least. So, find out what she might like in terms of that. Or use this first time as an opportunity to figure that out. And lastly, make it look like you are enjoying it even if you are not (you sound very interested in her so I’m hoping this won’t be a probl 🙂 ) then just act like it. Again, I’ve been in situations where my parter doesn’t seem into it and there’s no way I can finish without fantasizing about something else in my head. Encourage her to lead your hands to where she wants them. If she wants to touch herself too during the encounter, encourage her to! You got this!!!

   Edit: another thing, let her ride your face if she wants to lol

7. My personal favorite moves when a guy goes down on me:
   Kissing all over first, focusing on my hip bones and inner thighs to really build up
   Having him kind of spread my lips apart, this can be done as a build up or is really good for exposing the clit when you are actually eating her out
   Trying different techniques: circles around the clit, flicking it with the tongue, lightly sucking
   Using his fingers to keep the stimulation going when he has to stop for a few breaths

   Most important things:
   1: know where the clit is
   2: listen to her, whether it is explicit direction or just moans or sounds

8. There’s already some great advice here, especially around letting her know you’re new at this and then actively listening to her and her body language.

   A few things that haven’t been said yet:

   If she’s getting close and tells you something like “keep going just like that” that’s a sign to keep doing exactly what you’re doing. She doesn’t mean speed up or switch things up, she means keep it up and you’ll get her there. If she needs you to go harder or faster she’ll say or signal it some other way.

   If you’re enjoying yourself let her know. Sometimes women will get in their head about if their pussy smells/tastes nice and it’s harder to cum if that’s on her mind. A little moaning while you’re eating her out can put her at ease so she can focus on enjoying what you’re doing. I’ll usually mention how good her pussy tastes while I’m gently teasing her at the start so she knows I’m excited to eat her out.

9. One more bit of advice from an outlier, consider asking her beforehand/during foreplay if there are certain kinds of touch she really likes or really dislikes. For example, I have an incredibly sensitive clitoris and any direct contact with it causes excruciating pain. If someone’s tongue were to touch it, my legs would clamp down on their head like a bear trap. It wouldn’t end well for anyone. So if something seems off or if she seems nervous, consider that there may be something physical with her body that could be impeding her either physically or mentally or both. Good luck friend!

10. Every single female is different. They all like it different. Some want a lot of focus on the clit, some want none. No matter how much advice you get you will not do well in the beginning. I’ve licked more pussy than a house full of cats and even I can’t do prefect on a new women the first try. You just have to pay attention every time you eat her out and figure out what she likes and what she don’t. If you are doing well she might move more, get more wet, make noise, grind … if you are doing poorly then she will do less of those things. It’s not always about going in like a fat kid eating cake sometimes you want to be light and gently tease the shit out of it and when you feel she’s getting close then you dive in and eat that pie. The longer you are with the girl the more you will learn about what she enjoys. The most important thing though is … make sure you enjoy it. She can tell when you love eating pussy and that will be the biggest turn on of all.

11. Enjoy!

12. I’ll copy-pasta myself here:

    My moves:

    Go slow. Kiss her all over her body, stay away from the vulva at first. Kiss her neck, nibble at her ears, work your way down her body. Caress her breasts, softly massage them, lick her nipples.

    Try to notice stuff she likes and doesn’t like for next time. Do stuff she likes longer, if not continue.

    Kiss, lick and stroke her all over her body. The insides of her thighs is where it gets interesting. It’s a very sensitive and erotic area for many women, so spend some time there getting closer and closer to the vulva. Try to wait until she can’t stand to wait any longer and wants you to touch and lick her vulva. But don’t wait too long hehe.

    First, just lick the outer lips (labia majora) up and down, up and down, slowly. Then, with the lightest touch you can, lick her all the way from her butthole to her clit, right in the middle of her vulva. You can also try to stay below the clit at first to drive her even more crazy. Finally, give her a really slow, deep, strong lick right in the middle of her vulva, getting your tongue deep inside and keeping it firm.

    Then it’s time to get to work on the clitoris. Every girl is different, some only like very soft licking, some hard licking, some slow licking, some strong licking. Some like when you create suction with your mouth around the clitoris and play with the clitoris using your tongue. You can also move your head around while sucking around the clitoris. It’s always best to start slow and soft and only get quick or stronger later. And if you think she might be close to orgasm or she tells you, just keep doing what you’re doing and don’t change a thing.

    Good luck!

13. i don’t have a ton of advice but i will say this: don’t sweat it if she doesn’t cum. the goal is to make her feel good, and if you’re trying to get her over the finish line you might rush her or go too rough. take it slow, pay attention, and try to catalogue her reactions. if she makes more noises when you do one thing, do that thing more. if she grabs onto your hair or pushes your head against her more, she might be impatient or really into it. don’t be afraid to tease for a little bit and build up to it. don’t panic, you’ll hopefully have more times to try it out and perfect your methods

14. Lots of good advice here. Honestly, tell her that you really want to make her feel good and ask for feedback.

    If she is moaning, rocking her hips, etc. then keep doing what you’re doing without changing anything.

15. stop browsing reddit and focus on that pussy ?

16. Put her hips up on a pillow so you can tilt your head back a little to keep you breathing, follow her reactions (the most sensitive spot has a tendency of moving around), and if you’re feeling daring, you can use your chin (if you’re clean shaven really) to tease her while giving her oral.