Alright so a little bit of background, my ex-gf(19 F) and I (18 M ) broke up around 5 months ago due to long distance after being together for 7 months (3 months close distance and 4 long distance). The reason we broke up was because we didn’t feel like it was enough, different plans after uni and whenever we visited each other (3 hour and 30 minutes by train – one way) we had max. 2 days together which went by extremely fast. Due to having such limited time together, the relationship got too physical and not enough emotional, with almost every encounter ending in a small fight due to us avoiding or experiencing the best part of the relationship through videocalls and normal calls. Addittionally, since we wanted to do everything in this short period of time, we just ended up doing nothing at all. Due to the fights we’d end up being sad for a week, which took a toll on both our mental healths.
We talked about me moving to live in her city but I don’t know if I want to do that because I’m starting my first year of uni on September and it’s the best uni in the state for my field of study. The uni there is almost as good but doesn’t offer some options such as a 2 foreign exchange semester programs, and I’m less familiarized with it’s programs.
On the other hand we still have feelings for each other and I do want to give it another shot, except I’m not sure if the timing is right. Not to mention all of the work it would take me getting everything from my house to hers. I feel like I’m thinking too much with my heart and dick at this point.
On the other other hand I don’t know if I’m too young to be wanting to settling down right now, cause if I end up moving there I’ll have less time for my own future business, less time for myself and my less time to explore stuff I want to. This was my first ever girlfriend that’s why I think it’s so hard to move on, but I know I still have feelings for her. Should I stay where I am or think about moving with her?