So i talked with this one girl again yesterday that I really like and it was indeed nice talking to her again and we often click really well, but sometimes I have the feeling that she is going back pretty fast with talking about her if I react to that what she says and then come up with own ideas or stories. Maybe I am expecting too much from her side. I man, we are planning on meeting up. She seems like an amazing human and is really cute, but this thing with that she sometimes ignores the the things I contribute to the conversation, and that in a radical way, is a little redflag to me.
I could say that she is insecure about herself sometimes too, but idk if this is a valid argument for that behaviour.
Am I too soft as a Male creature because of getting irritated by the feeling of not getting heard? I don’t wanna dump her, but I am also scared of getting hurt again.
What would be the best way to handle this, talking less?
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Well, don’t get overly invested until you figure it out.
That, and if you want to play the harder game, tell her you think this and ask her this question. If a girl can take that in stride and have a serious conversation about it, she’s a keeper lol. Plenty of people would take it as presumptuous though, if you say something like this this early into knowing them.
There are a million reasons why someone would speak and act how you describe, so I guess the best way would be to test her at some point. Try to make things serious in the conversation and get her to actively listen to you. Maybe try 3 times. If she still circles back to herself and glosses over you, even when you try to be really serious and/or vulnerable, well, then you’ll be more sure lol
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Go with your gut. No need to waste time on self absorbed people, cute or not.