Are my friends inviting me or not?

I’ve noticed a pattern recently with my friends and it’s got me down. Disclaimer: this is not a group of friends, but it has happened with every single one-to-one friendship I have.

I’ve come to realise that all my friends do this with me: they send me an event and say “how cool does this look” and then I say “wow yeah it looks amazing”. Then I expect an invite is coming, but instead they just go “yeah I really want to go”. Then in recent times (because I’ve been fickle) I go “let’s go together” and they seem pretty happy about it and then I end up planning, booking and coordinating the whole thing. I have fun and I think my friends have fun. BUT, I’m feeling burned out from always feeling like I have to take the lead on social plans. I’ve stopped replying with “would you like to go together” and now I never get plans in the calendar with these friends. When they say “yeah I wanna go”, I instead just assume they’re making conversation and I say “ah I’m sure you’ll have a great time” and then the conversation moves on to something else.

Do you consider sending a friend an event and saying how cool it looks, to be a soft invite? Or have I just been thick-skinned enough to invite myself along to things that my friends were actually planning to just do with their other half? I’m confused because they willingly agree and I *think* they have fun, but I feel like most people I know are actually just completely apathetic 🙁