Hello! So I (25f) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3,5 years.
My problem is, when we start having sex I’m super excited and stuff, but in the middle of it I completely lose interest and just want it to be over to do something else. Even if he’s doing all the right things that I like. Sometimes I just start thinking about something else so i completely lose the mood. This also has lowered my sex drive since I know in the middle of it I won’t want it anymore.
Has anyone gone through this? Any advice on how to stay focused?
I’m on the pill and taking anti depressants since forever, I don’t know if it has something to do with it.
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>I’m on the pill and taking anti depressants since forever, I don’t know if it has something to do with it.
That has a lot to do with it.
Are you participating in the acts as well? Have you tried moves to keep him pleased? When you try pleasuring your partner, you can experience arousal as well.
If you are simply just laying there, that can lead you to getting bored. Likely for him as well.
From a man’s point of view this is like loosing steam mind way and poof, gone soft.
The trick is to know what the trigger is and avoid it, don’t mean to be blunt but if your in a world of you own during sex he’s not keeping your attention therefore not pleasuring you. Tell him to try harder but just tell him straight out what you want and how you like it to cut the BS
PS: Anti depression drugs KILL the labido
Question how is the sex? Is it still pleasing or has it gotten a lil routine? Do you guys use toys?
Maybe tell your bf that you want more intense, shorter sex sessions. Guys have this thing in their mind that they need to be able to just go at it all night but if you lose interest for long sessions just tell them you want a quickie.