I (23F) wouldn’t say my sex life with my SO (25M) is bad, it’s just he can sometimes like to do things his way.
This means no foreplay, no kissing, really when he gets horny, he just wants to stick it in as fast as possible and pump away until he’s done. He knows that even if I’m not wet, when it’s in I’ll get wet, and for this reason he doesn’t feel like we need foreplay or anything.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m into the fast and rough, but sometimes I just wish he took his time or really focused on ME and MY needs. I do cum regularly when we have sex, it’s really the lack of foreplay, and always wanting it rough when I want it slow.
It’s hard to talk to him about it cuz I don’t want him feeling like he’s doing a bad job. We’ve been together for 7 years.
Any suggestions on how to have this conversation?
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Date older men we make it all about your satisfaction.
He’s an adult, you don’t have to treat him like he can’t accept that he isn’t perfect. As long as you say it in a nice way there’s nothing wrong with letting him know that for you to fully enjoy sex you need foreplay and this should be how sex starts most of the time. It would be hard for him not to know this already. You’ve let him be lazy and convince himself that you are an exception. If he starts to try and make you feel bad for “criticizing” then just turn it around on him; tell him it’s all your fault, you should have told him before, but hold firm that he does need to make changes.