I’m dating someone who, compared to previous experience, has a particularly small clitoris. Without getting too graphic, when she gets excited (which is obviously a good thing!) & moves around a lot it’s hard to keep “on the button” so to speak. I’d love to at least let her know why sometimes I might struggle to keep her in the zone (though wouldn’t want her to stop enjoying it however she likes to) but I’m not sure if women would consider such information as offensive as a guy might if told he is “smaller than average”.
Is this a thing with women or should I feel safe to discuss? She’s generally very open-minded.
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I wouldn’t be offended and am not sure why someone would be, but I don’t know how any other women might feel and this isn’t something I’ve discussed with my friends to see how they would feel.
I think they probably feel more off put by being given bodily comparisons to other women, than the actual fact they have a small clit.
It doesn’t “offend” me per say… and I’ve been told by many that the whole package is “pretty”.
However, I do have trouble climaxing (but I know it’s mostly mental and that I need a vibrator) and one time a guy said something to me about “ohh it’s because you have a small clit”… he went on for a couple minutes about it too.
So, while I do agree somewhat with him, and while I do like & feel very confident with the aesthetic appearance of mine, I didn’t appreciate that comment.
That was years ago — I only hooked up with him a few time, but Sometimes I can’t stop that comment from surfacing my mind occasionally while I’m trying to get in the mood. It’s silly, I know… but really I just need a lot of mental stimulation to get in the mood.
I don’t mind if someone says something positive about my vagina and her exterior appearance, but I honestly didn’t care to hear that.
Other men have also commented on mine being on the smaller side, but they’d say it in a more “it turns them on” “she’s pretty” kind of way. That I like.
Idk what it’s even like to have a large clot either, so what’s the point. 🤷🏼♀️
I think commenting on any size of a body part, or a sexual organ can be off-putting/offensive to some. Comparing someone’s body to another person’s, regardless if it was in a non malicious intent, expecially to a women, who are already super aware and self conscious of their bodies can be taken sensitively. Not saying this is for all women but I can see why she might be a bit taken aback.