My soon to be fiance is very, VERY shy and doesn’t like to talk about sexual things unless it’s only about me and her while we’re getting intimate. When we first began dating 2 years ago, she admitted she prefers lesbian porn (but rarely watches it…only when she hasn’t gotten any sex after some time) but does not like girls like that “at all”. She wouldn’t talk more about it…she would shut down the conversation every time I asked. It’s weird because I catch her looking at other girls (especially with big asses) A LOT.
We have a very good sex life but we didn’t have sex the past 2 weeks because our schedules were a mess and she was on her period the first week. While she was texting me before bed a few nights ago, she said she was horny since we normally have sex 3-5 times a week. I told her to watch porn and play with herself but she said she wanted the real thing. The next day, I spent time with her and while we began getting intimate, I asked if she watched porn after that text. She said she didn’t. After we did our thing, she pulled out her phone, opened her tabs in Safari on her phone and I saw lesbian porn. I said “ha I knew it! Why did you say you didn’t? That turns me on a lot.” She laughed and said “stop” and after some convincing, I got her to show me what she watched (it legitimately turns me on imagining her playing with herself). She scrolled through her history (she didn’t want to open the videos), and I saw that she searched “big ass lesbians” (my girl has a very big ass…could that for some reason be why she likes to watch it?) and “lesbians scissoring” (I REALLY don’t get this one). I didn’t say anything about this since I felt like she would get annoyed if I asked. She tried to shut down the topic quickly after I caught her.
I’ll be honest..her searching those specific things threw me off a little bit. I guess I’d just like to understand this a little bit. Her being too embarassed/annoyed to talk about this makes it hard for me to ask her.
Maybe some straight girls on here that like lesbian porn can explain this to me? Please take it easy on me…I’ve only been in 3 other relationships and none of them watched any lesbian porn so this is completely new to me.
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This is very, very common
Women in lesbian porn actually… receive pleasure. Most straight form is rough or degrading, about the woman being used for his pleasure. In lesbian porn the women are enjoyed, not used
This is fairly common because a lot of “mainstream” porn is made explicitly for male consumption. I think it’s possible for a straight woman to get off on lesbian porn by seeing a woman being pleasured and imagining how good that must feel. If men in porn more commonly pleasured women and weren’t so commonly rough and degrading maybe the hetero female consumption of porn would be less common
Watching a certain type of porn doesn’t mean that’s the type of relationship/sex you want. Her attitude is normal, I dont think she’s lying at all. Its good to talk about this stuff, but you are overanalyzing things trying to find specific answers so quickly. Watching porn turns us on but not specifically because we identify with the exact acts happening on screen. Maybe not true for everybody but for me (straight guy) watching homo porn is more about the sexual energy, instead of identifying with the specific relationship or being attracted to the girl on screen. It’s similar to somebody loving to watch Dexter even tho they couldn’t/wouldn’t kill someone, or watching parkour/diving/racing/fighting even if doing those things terrify them. Empathy is being able to understand and appreciate how others feel, we don’t strictly enjoy things that we see ourselves doing.
Straight girl here and I watch it too, I think the other people said it, it’s just more pleasure and also I can imagine it easier
Real life is different from reel life.
A lot of porn that people watch, they might not want to do it themselves or have it done to themselves in real life. This is due to a myriad of reasons, most common of which is, of course, “the screen”, i.e. it’s just a movie.
Straight porno looks painful for the women. I would not want it in real life. I love slow ,sensuous and gentle. Nothing arousing about straight porn.
I have seen erotic male on make, and erotic female on female porn. But, I haven’t seen much straight porn that was erotic and arousing. It’s just too pushy and dominating and ouchy looking
i’m straight and i watch both lesbian and gay porn. straight porn is really for men’s visual pleasure…it can be really unarousing to watch tbh. i just get really out of the moment bc i can see how awful the sex actually is. not to mention the weird angles and focus on the woman in the video. nothing about straight porn is really for women to enjoy. also though, i’m sometimes just watching out of pure curiosity. lesbians don’t have a dick and do some awesome foreplay stuff that i’ve asked my boyfriend to try before and oh man it was really awesome! lol