A few days ago I asked we were cuddling and I asked if she wanted to do it, she replied we don’t have a condom, I replied I can pull out, she proceeds to um……., then I asked her you don’t trust me? She said nope, and that it’s not me its the pre cum.
When we started having sex I used condoms, even now because we don’t want kids (yet) since we both still young.
Just to let you guys know we are not having sex, due to medical reasons and are waiting for results, this was mostly done in a more joking way ( the conversation).
The reason this is bothering me is that. She’s never used any form of birth control at all before. but has had sex with guys without condom, her sexual partners count up to 4 including me. The issue is she trusted them more than me and I’m the longest relationship she’s had (8 months).
I’m not stupid enough to not use condoms but damn it hurt hearing that.
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Maybe she’s gotten wiser. It’s not about trusting you or not. It’s true that precum can get you pregnant, although it’s extremely unlikely. I’ve pumped loads into my girl on and off ovulation, and have had nothing. (We don’t mind having kids tho). There’s still only a 40% chance to get pregnant when cumming inside while they’re ovulating.
But regardless, don’t think of it as a trust issue. She’s being more cautious with you because she doesn’t want to make mistakes with you. It’s not a negative thing. She’s just matured from the reckless acts she used to partake in.
She is being smart! Relying on the pull out method is how every Catholic I know got their kids. It’s not reliable. Precum has semen and if you mistime the finish, she can get knocked up. Just be an adult and use protection or risk having a kid. It’s easy math.
She clearly became wiser and that it’s better safe than sorry, it’s not about not trusting you it’s about shes doing the right thing and saying no because of the possibility of being pregnant. People mature and change- dont take it to heart.
As the others said try no to take it to heart. She is just smarter now then she used to be and maybe learned a few things. If it still hurts ask her if she can take the time to hear out your feelings on it. Maybe she will speak her reasons as to why things changed. That doesn’t mean that after communication you get to go in without a condom. All its for is for you guys to get to know each other better. Communication is always a top thing to practice.
Are you in the US? The thought of getting pregnant just got a lot scarier for a lot of fertile people here. Many of us are rethinking our risk/reward decisions around sex.
Hey – you did something stupid before. Why won’t you do the same stupid thing with me to prop up my ego? Is that really what your post is saying?
While not really an answer to Your question. Depending on the pull available to You i would suggest That stuff.. there is nothing That feels like a load inside Your partner 😏😏.. I am fine with pill only because the ones my girl are using, has no side-effect we have noticed. We both happy and safe 😉