Any ideas how to start a friendship with men?

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1. Participate in activities and smile. You dont seem to be charismatic type so follow the leader and the group. As you become comfortable you can start proposing your activities and ideas.

   If group starts to compete, dont back off. Teens and kids do that subconciously. If you back off from every single challenge (who runs faster etc. No one says you need to do stupid things or endanger yourself for sport) you will lose respect.

2. Be chill, don’t gossip, don’t try to always do one better. Try and not be the clown immediately.

3. Just chill, relax, don’t gossip or make big deals about things. Most guys like a steady boat, don’t rock it. When in doubt, shut the fuck up.

4. First days are crucial. Make sure to be present and not left aside. For example, if a group of them is headed for a lunch, go join them.

   Other than that, just be mellow.

5. * Do some activities
   * Have your own view about stuff but also be open to hear others views on different things
   * Say “Hi” and “how was your weekend” to people while doing the above activities
   * Repeat week after week, your likely connect with 1 or 2 over something outside that activity (mostly to do with the item you have a view about but dont voice much of it)

6. Treat them as friends

7. Be genuine, the right ppl will gravitate towards u.

8. Unrelated, but it always throws me off when someone said “I get along better with girls/guys.” I feel it limited good interactions with people. Like, if you don’t think you get along with a person of a particular gender, you might put less effort into being personable or subconsciously throw some shade or something. And when that friendship doesn’t work out (for the aforementioned shade throwing), you justify it by saying “I’m just not good at being friends with guys/girls.”