I’ve (23f) been with my bf (21m) for 3 years now. We’ve had a lot of issues much bigger than this but for some reason this just really made me upset.
My boyfriend was at home visiting his family for the past few weeks and he just got home today. I picked him up from the airport and we had a good day together. He didn’t really seem happy to see me. He was upset about leaving his family which is really understandable so I didn’t expect him to be very excited I guess.
We were supposed to be watching a new tv show together and before it started we were sitting on the couch scrolling through our phones. He wanted to show me something on his so he was scrolling through his feed and he stopped for like half a second at a video of a girl shaking her ass and dancing w a dirty caption on it about sex or something and he liked it and kept scrolling while I was there right next to him, looking at his phone. I was like dude wtf I’m sitting right here? He kept saying “what” like I didn’t just see what he did.
It made me so angry for some reason and I told him that’s embarrassing for him to like that while I’m sitting right next to him and that was wrong and disrespectful to do that. He didn’t say anything he just kept laughing at me the more I said how upset I was, so I just left and went to take a shower and get ready for bed instead.
He’s in the living room and I’m in the bedroom now. He hasn’t said anything to me or apologized. I’m really upset and I’m mad that when I told him I’m upset he just laughed at me and didn’t do anything. I don’t know if I’m being irrational or if he should at least apologize to me for doing that. It made me uncomfortable and I wouldn’t like some guys half naked pics while he’s right there, I don’t even do that when I’m by myself.
I feel like it’s my fault for saying I was upset and like I need to go apologize to get him to talk to me again. On the other hand, I feel like this isn’t something I should be dealing with in an adult relationship. Maybe when I was 16 or something but not now.
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It’s not the liking of the video itself that’s the main problem here (although that could be a problem too) but it’s how he treated you after you expressed your discomfort. He’s dismissing it. And making fun of you. Does he treat your other concerns like this?